Lexicon is a word that may not be in your lexicon. Though it sounds like a type of unicorn, the word means the collective vocabulary of a person. As a teacher of English language learners, words and language intrigue me.
I am intrigued by a new phrase that seems to have crept into the modern lexicon. The phrase “of course” is now used as a response to “thank you.” The words “of course” are not new, but this context and connotation is a recent development. I have experienced this response especially in service situations. I say “thank you” to someone for ringing up my transaction or providing information and “of course” is the reply. Typically, the response to “thank you” was “you’re welcome” or in a service situation, “my pleasure.” The “of course” I have heard carries an air of arrogance as in, “Don’t degrade me with your gratitude” or “Wouldn’t you expect me to do this – it’s my job.” Is some of it tone? Is it generational? Probably yes to both.
Tone of voice is everything. Not too long ago I answered a family member with what I thought was a respectful reply. Unintentionally however, my words sounded terse and communicated impatience. Looking back, I could attribute my tone to both physical discomfort (overeating) and frustration with this same kind of request in the past. I spoke acceptable words but said them with an air of irritation and it was wrong. With my manner of speaking, I wounded a relationship.
God tells us that the right words spoken at the right time, in the right tone, paint a lovely still life portrait:
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. Proverbs 25:11
May God give us grace and wisdom for our speech. I believe that gratitude (thank you) and courtesy (you’re welcome) should continue to be “apples of gold” in our daily lexicon. Please teach these phrases to the little ones in your life. Thank you.
