A Decade

My back patio pavement came to life this summer.  In tiny crevices between the brick-like border, twin green leaflets emerged dotting a lot of the seams.  They looked familiar and as I let them grow, I recognized the plant as vinca.  I planted vinca in my patio flowerpots last year and apparently seeds formed and then lodged in cracks where spring rains and summer sun brought them to life from the rocks!  I considered pulling them up until I decided I could use the flowers in spots around the yard.  Plus, travel and ‘to do’s’ are limiting my garden activity this year.  So, pictured, you see flowers blooming from the cracks!  I have transplanted some of the strays but I discovered when they got too big, the root broke off as a pulled them out.

Vinca self-seeded in my patio bricks!

In my decade of blog writing, ideas and topics come to mind for a post, and then I select the feature photo (a requirement in the program I use).  If you’ve been reading for long, or have an eye for photography, you realize photos are not my strong suit.  But this time, the photo of the scene on my patio takes the stage and I wonder and pray for an application.

Some of you will probably think of what I first thought:  the quip, “bloom where you’re planted.”  Yes, the vinca did just that, but my mind isn’t settling there.  Instead, I am thinking of the need to keep a short account, to nip problems in the bud, not let a bitter root grow.  Though the analogy breaks down on my patio as the cute pink and white flowers bloom, albeit out of place, Scripture does bear the warning.

Song of Solomon levels with us about controlling “little foxes that spoil the vine,” an admonishment to keep short accounts in relationships (Song of Solomon 2 v 15).  God used the author of Hebrews (12 v 15) to warn against letting a bitter root (or root of bitterness) grow, that is, get larger. It should be pulled up quickly when small and manageable!  And in the epistle of James (3 v 3-5), a trio of metaphors describe the big impact of just a little, untamed sin, foremost among them sinning words and speech.  Timely spiritual weed control is a serious and consequential chore.

Ten years ago, in August of 2016, I launched my blog, “A Writer’s Daughter.”  My debut was a series of gardening anecdotes on Facebook.  Since then, it has been the Lord’s work and His pace. I prayerfully persist in writing as the thoughts (or images) form in my mind.  My blog numbers are not in the millions (I haven’t gone viral!?!) but I trust that the real Author is writing His story in others’ lives, as I share some of His words, The Word.  AMEN ~ thank you for reading.

This sunflower came up on its own in the front border garden. Volunteers, as some call them, pop up anywhere. There’s a bright pink Crape Myrtle about a foot tall, blooming at the edge of a nearby highway. I smile every time I drive by.

More Funerals Than Weddings

Catching up with a long-time friend recently, we recalled together the tragic death of a mutual acquaintance a few years back. The young man, barely in his 30’s, died of a drug overdose.  Drug use had apparently plagued him for years.  My friend added, “My son says he’s been to more funerals than weddings.”  How sad that a generation only in their first half of adult life, are witness to such loss of lives due to drugs.

“More funerals than weddings” expresses another awareness:  less weddings.  This is a reality today.  There are fewer marriages among the young and maturing adult generation.  I am guessing that you can name many young-ish single friends or adult children of friends who, surprisingly to you, are not married.  In other words, they seem like the type who could be married, but they are not and are advancing past the age when a marriage would include having children.

I was at this local jeweler’s yesterday, dealing with some estate jewelry.

Plenty of statistics and analyses give us facts and provide likely causes so that is not my purpose.  I point to God’s planned design for humankind. God ordained marriage and family right from the start: He gave Adam EVE!  Before and after the sinful fall, God instructed His creation to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1 v 28; Genesis 9 v 1).  In fact, even during a period of punishment in captivity, God encouraged His people to “flourish” in family life and build prosperity (Jeremiah 29).

Of course, I must pause here to be understanding.  It is not wrong to be single; there is nothing wrong with you if you are unmarried. And I care deeply for those who desire to be married but for whom a spouse has not come into their lives. Being married is not a happily-ever-after status either!  Rather, it is two fallen people making a go of it in what is an ongoing sanctifying process … but God still calls us to flourish.  I know single people flourish too.  Thank you, Lord.

Christians can be ambassadors for marriage.  We can ask the questions and provide support.  We can talk up healthy dating and courtship.  We can connect those who are open, though I have never successfully set up a match.  We can pray specifically.  Years ago, my friend Dana told me she had a list of eligibles that she prayed for.  I did the same and smile to see God work on my list, even as I also add more names.  I will make sure my little ‘grands’ have wedding clothes in the dress-up box, and we should take preteens to Christian weddings when they are invited!

Jesus joined in the joy of marriage by performing His first miracle at a wedding (John 2) and Scripture ends with the most amazing wedding reception ever:  the wedding feast of The Lamb (Revelation 19 v 6-9) !  Hurray for marriages!

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